A Father in High Heels

A German poet once said, “Becoming a father is easy enough, but being one can be very rough.” 

I couldn’t agree more.

During my first year as a father, I sometimes asked myself if I am really ready for this next level in my life--- changing baby diapers, waking up during wee hours to prepare milk, making up silly tunes and other never-before-done things just to please my son.  But I always end up saying yes especially when my child smiles at me as if he’s saying, “Thank you, Dad.”

Now, I discovered my new weakness.  I think I won’t ever resist my son smiling at me that I’ll do everything and give anything he wants for as long as he’s happy.

I was just a college freshman when I saw Robin William’s movie about a father who would do anything just to be with his kids.  Doing anything would mean disguising himself as an old lady to apply as a housekeeper to his ex-wife and three children.  With this simple premise, Mrs. Doubtfire became a box-office hit and was included in the American Film Institute’s list of 100 funniest movies of the 20^th century. Last week, I was able to see the movie again over cable TV.

The movie is very funny but heart-warming in so many ways.  The story evolves in the life of Daniel Hillard (Williams), an out-of-work voice actor.  His wife Miranda, played by the versatile actress Sally Field, has reached the end of her patience and decided to leave his irresponsible husband.  Since Daniel has no steady job, Miranda was forced to be the main breadwinner of the family.   Miranda gets primary custody of their three children while the court granted Daniel visitation rights limited to Saturday evenings because they find him unfit to be a father (which I think is one of the greatest insults one can hurl to any man)

When Daniel founds out that Miranda was looking for a housekeeper, he moved heaven and earth just to get the job.  With the help of his brother who is a professional make-up artist, Daniel was transformed into the 60-year old widow from England Mrs. Doubtfire who got the name from the news headline "Police Doubt Fire Was Accidental". 

The moment Mrs. Doubtfire set foot to the house of Miranda and the kids, it was the beginning of mischievous adventures of the family.  One memorable scene was the time Mrs. Doubtfire accidentally ignited his fake breasts on a stove while cooking dinner.  I know in real life it might be a scary sight but it was a riot in this film.   

To add a little more spice to Mrs. Doubtfire’s dilemma, Miranda introduces her new boyfriend (Pierce Brosnan) to the family.  At this stage, Daniel would not only fight for quality time for his children but also for the right to be the person to whom the kids will look up to.  

In the end, Mrs. Doubtfire’s true identity was discovered.  This would lead to the tear-jearker court scenes where Daniel acts as his own attorney as he confessed why he disguised as Mrs. Doubtfire.  The judge, although feeling sympathy for Daniel, finds his behavior somewhat disturbing and awarded sole custody of their children to Miranda.  Daniel's visitation rights were also further restricted as the judge only allows him to see his kids with supervision from a court liaison.  Williams is one great comedian but in this movie, he proves to everyone that he can also make us cry.  You can feel his pain as a father trapped in his worst nightmare in this sequence in the film.

But as they say, time heals all wounds.  Miranda forgave Daniel of all his wrongdoings and decided to give him what a father longs and truly deserve--- the warm hugs and kisses of his children.  The film concludes with Daniel picking up his kids while Miranda is watching a TV show featuring advices to children of divorced parents, saying that no matter what type of family living arrangement children have, love will maintain the bond.

I just fell blessed that I have a loving wife and a adorable child in my life now that I vowed not to be in the situation that I’ll be forced to wear high heels just to see my son.  Let all fathers learn from Mrs. Doubtfire. 

Miracle in Cell No. 7: For all the great fathers

Few weeks ago, I was not able to hold on my tears from falling as I try to snort in the most silent way I can while on a plane back to Manila after a business trip.  No, I did not left my heart in San Francisco or in Kuala Lumpur where I stayed for a week. It’s not even because of the feeling of excitement of seeing my wife and son after nights and days of exchanging I love U over Viber.

I was crying my heart out while watching, in my book, the most moving and touching movie about fatherhood that I have seen in recent years. Another remarkable thing about the experience of watching the 2013 Korean comedy/ melodrama is that I don’t understand a single word the actors said and relied only with the English subtitle and fine acting job of the cast to fully embraced the beauty and lessons of the film.  

 

The story is about Lee Yong-gu, a mentally challenged man wrongfully imprisoned for murder who then left behind a 6-year old street-smart daughter named Ye-sung roaming in search for her father. With her wit and charm and help of hardened criminals that Leng Yong-gu befriended in prison, Ye-sung found herself in an unusual situation of secretly living inside the cell with his dad.

At first, I thought I was just watching a Asian version of Sean Penn and Dakota Fanning’s 2001 Hollywood hit I am Sam that also deals about the dilemma of raising a daughter for a father with a developmental disability . However, as I begin to relate to some of the fatherhood stuff in the film, I began to let myself ride in the roller coaster adventures and misadventures of Lee Yong-gu.  

Ye-sung and her father lead a happy life while he makes a living by working as a parking attendant at a local supermarket. But one tragic day, a young girl whom Lee Yong-gu followed to ask where he can buy a similar Sailor Moon backpack for her daughter died in a freak accident. He was falsely accused and sentenced to death for abduction, sexual assault, and murder of a minor. Everything happened so fast as it was revealed that the young girl happens to be the daughter of a high-ranking police official. (So, if there is someone who should be in out jail, it should be Sailor Moon… hmp!)

While waiting for the confirmation of Lee Yong-gu’s death sentence, the father and daughter made use of their remaining time together inside the prison. As silly and impossible this storyline may seems, viewers will laugh, cheer and cry with the characters as everyone, except the jail guards and police commissioners, do everything they can so Lee Yong-gu can escape out of jail.  

Some of the best sequences to watched out for happened inside the prison--- the time they sneak Ye-sung inside Cell no. 7; how the little girl touched the lives of each thug; the making of the improvised balloon and the memorable escape scene; the last goodbye… and the… and the… wait, I’m getting emotional now. Give me a few minutes to calm my self.  

(After five minutes... although I'm still sniffing)

If there is a perfect time to watch this, I recommend all daddies to gather their kids in the living room on his birthday. If you plan to prepare food and drinks, make sure to allot a space on the table for at least a box or two of tissue paper. Believe me, even the heart of stone will soften especially during Ye-sung’s last farewell to his “Pa.”

Based on Korean box-office reports, Miracle on Cell No. 7 took more than US$30 million in its first two weeks on the back of strong word-of-mouth. This was especially notable since the film had only Park Shin-Hye (grown up Ye-sung) that can be considered a big star, and a modest budget en route to being the third highest grossing Korean film of all time.

As the end credits rolled up in the screen, I was asking myself what was the miracle that the film tries to imply. Was it the validation of innocence of a wrongfully accused man who was once against all odds? Or was it the moment heartless criminals changed how they see life after being touched by an angelic and innocent child? 

In my opinion, the real miracle is how the movie reminded me and every father who watched it that fatherhood is not just about having a child and raising them to be the best they can be. Fatherhood is the miracle itself. It brings out a certain magic to a man. It soften his heart, it makes him sing and dance. It’s the happiness only a father will feel and understand.